What does it really mean to have healthy boundaries?

Do you think about what other person want to do or you consider yourself first ? 

Those questions are really important since I work with clients I came to lots of realisations that most of us don’t know how to maintain the non attachment .  The non attachment is strictly connected to healthy boundaries .


According to Chad A. Buck ,PhD

“ A psychological boundary is like an imaginary fence around what thoughts ,feelings , values ,or desires belong to you .

What does an effective personal boundary look like? 

An effective boundary is neither too rigid nor too loose. 

It offers protection while still keeping you connected to others, it offers structure, it limits the energy you devote to a person or situation, and it offers you choices rather than obligations or expectations. 

Visualise a stone wall with a gate that can be opened or closed. You are the gatekeeper, and no one gets access unless you say so.”

It’s all about finding balance if you constantly feel you need to be on the go 

Why   don’t you try to stop for a moment ? 

Take a deep breath go to nature get that oxygen to your body connect to the earth connect to your body . 

Do you really feel like taking that call ? 

Do you need to respond to that message straight away ?

Or maybe you feel you have been alienating ( hiding ) for way to long ? 

When was the last time you have met that good friend of yours had a nice chat shared your experiences ? 

I used to go out to much didn’t know how to say no , that was the moment when I lost myslef . 

But sometimes we loose ourselves to find the self again . 

When I had period of alienation it was also a bit risky but it was important for me to find what I want and who I really want in my life .

Try to answer all those questions 

I will do for the next blog so we can develop deeper understanding but step by step . 

We don’t need to jump into a deep waters straight away . 

Look within 🕉